Don't hesitate to ask for some help. In today's world, you don't have to go it alone. These days people talk much more openly about the issues they face in life. It is common to share life's challenges with family and friends and work together to come up with solutions. Mental health professionals and life coaches also can be helpful when the bumpy road of life seems especially challenging.
Life is filled with good days. But, let’s face it…life can also be a bumpy road. Very rarely does everything go along without a hiccup or two for long. If you’re lucky, most of the bumps you encounter in life are on of smaller variety. Of course, many small bumps can seem somewhat significant at the time, but a lot of them merely jostle you around a bit for a while… and, thankfully, aren’t devastating. Still, any bump in the road has the potential to present a challenge and perhaps impact your happiness at least in the moment.
There are productive ways to cope with the smaller, more commonplace challenges on the road of life that can help make them easier to face and move beyond. Here are a few suggestions from a few average folks who have them helpful in managing to the bumps they’ve encountered in their lives.
Accept what you can’t change. It’s normal to have an emotional response to an unexpected challenge or bump in the road… even the smaller ones. If a problem is not going to have a detrimental impact on your life and there is absolutely nothing you can do about the issue or change its impact, try not to spend too much time fretting over it. Holding on to negative emotions and letting them fester will only hurt you. When acceptance is appropriate to a situation, it can make it much easier to move on.
Distract yourself. Sometimes, waiting for something to pass may be the only way to get beyond it. When it comes to unexpected bumps in the road of life, concentrating on something to take your mind off the issue for a while can help a lot. Try to involve yourself in something you enjoy that will elevate you mood and help you feel better.
Change what you can. If there is something you can do to improve or address an issue, take action. Do whatever you can to make things better.
Take a step back. A challenge or problem may seem a lot less troubling with a little distance. Ask yourself if whatever has happened will feel as disconcerting when some time has passed. Will it matter as much tomorrow… or next year…or a year from now? If not, perhaps it is not really as big a deal as it appears to be right now.
Do not beat yourself up. When things go wrong in life, people often look for things they may have done wrong that may have contributed to creating the issue. In a lot of cases, there’s simply no way to go back and redo something once it has happened… no matter how much you may wish you could. What is done is done. But you can learn from every mistake and do things differently next time. It is also possible, and often helpful, to offer an apology for a mistake if it has had an undesirable impact on someone else’s life as well as your own.
How do you handle unexpected bumps in the road of life?